It must be lonely to be you. As someone who looks up to you, and reads and re-reads your posts as gospel, it is tough for me to try and be of help to you. The best I can do is offer encouragement.
In my own experience, I go from feeling as hopeless as your post portrays, to feeling overjoyed at *knowing* that things are going to improve for us, and back down and back up... I find that going back up requires that *I* take the initiative to reach deep within, sink my claws into the part of my self that is an undying romantic who loves love, brush myself off, remember all the great things about the man I love most, and try, try again.
I hope that your post is a sign that you are in a temporary dip, and that you're not giving up. If anyone can beat the odds, it is you and your W. There must be some shred of unchartered territory left. Some idea that you haven't tried? Or, perhaps you can revisit something that has worked well in the past, such as DQ's "kiss campaign"?
You've been a beacon for many of us. I hope there is some way that we can reciprocate.
