I have asked myself a few of those questions. Maybe not as eloquently and as heartfelt as you express them but....I and probably alot others feel your pain. Even if she would answer those questions one by one, you would not accept them. No more than I would. Like I wrote earlier, the WAS has all this neatly tucked away in a portion of their brain called lala land. They have no problem looking at themselves in the mirror because they have come to terms with their actions. Looking back, I now realize that XW was always selfish but I did not notice. Of course, I am certain that nothing prepared us for this type of behaviour. The question is and always will be, what will T do with this information......The way I try to deal with these emotions that do creep up occasionally is to come to the realization that we are better off without this type of person in our life....not easy but I really doubt that our XWs will suddenly become the person we remeber.
