I like what you said about taking the power back. You're right - I'm wasting energy on this. I can't let that emotion be the powerful one. After our new "honeymoon" wore off, I felt the "anger" emotion creeping up on me. I need to not let that happen - not give it that much power.
The OW's H is dealing with it better than me - at least on the surface. He's been to my house since - he's spoken to my H - he says he's moved on. I think it's very strange. I refuse to step foot on the OW's property when she's home and I will not speak to her face to face - I've had to speak to her on the phone when calling to speak to others in the house - but that's all I'm willing to do. I just can't accept her - she was a very, very close friend in addition to being a relative. We watched each other's children and hung out together all of the time. I refuse to have somebody that poisonous in my life.
