WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

Day continues with the text message barrages.

I begining to note a trend where she feels I may be angry/upset, she becomes overly friendly. As I've been really busy this morning (I was out sick the last 2 days of last week), I was very slow in getting back to her (about an hour).

It started with her first text about her nose bleeds and asking how I was.

Then I got a second one saying her mom would pick up our oldest son and asking me to confirm I got the text

I responded 35 minutes later: Thanks for letting me know I don't need to pick him up and I was sorry to hear about her nose bleed.

She then thanked me for confirming

Then I told her that I've been busy in meetings

Then she asked about an easter egg hunt this weekend

I text her that the 2 boys should go

Then she text ok

Then she text how busy she was at work

A lot of nonsense. I'm tempted not to reply at all but I've been trying to keep it very cordial and polite. Not overly the top, but at least that I was not just ignoring her (like she had felt I was in the past).

On top of that, I get a call from my insurance agent to confirm the changes my wife made for our car insurance.

Now we still have counseling tonite. I'm really torn on what to talk about.

I'm thinking about talking about what she said about counseling last nite - she's going to make sure she's not making the wrong decision. Other piece of it is to take the compassionate route and start the talk with how I understand how she's still hurting and feels trapped right now. Right now I get the sense she is starting to feel some relief from escaping the trapped feeling. Then ask if we could talk about her other feelings.

Any thoughts?