He avoids all contact with her and asked her via cell phone in front of me to never contact him again in any way. He was contact once (via text page) and told me immediately. It's very hard for him also. Yep - everyone knows in the family - makes it double hard that's for sure. I'm not concerned about what they think at all. I just wish she'd disapear!
We've thrown around moving but our street has 4 houses up for sale right now and the market isn't where we need it to be. It's such a bummer to have to move and stay in the general area for schools (we've got little kids) and for his job - it's a good career w/great benefits. If we were to move, I'd like to head for the other side of the country.
I can appreciate that lots would like to be in my shoes - believe me....I was there! He filed for D on October 17th - thank god for the 6 month waiting period here in Michigan. That gave me enough time to read and practice DB'ing and to find a counselor. In a really strange twist of fate, our counselor (picked from an internet site) ended up being one of the 4 DB'ing phone coaches. There was someone smiling down on me a few times during the entire ordeal. Let me tell you - DB'ing works! I just need to get a handle on the emotion that she's still right there - and I'd like to ring her neck!
