my advice would be to buy & read & implement some strategies from Patricia Evan's books about verbally abusive men.
Some other good ones to help you regain some of your 'power' or sense of power in the relationship would be "the language of letting go" by Beattie
I would also highly suggest finding either Al-anon or co-dependents anonymous meetings & attending regularly.
There are domestic violence (he doesn't have to be hitting you for it to be violence) support groups in almost every community. Find one & attend their meetings.
I would still highly recommend you have in place an action plan (hidden car keys, cash, clothing, with a family member or friend on alert for sudden houseguests) for leaving quickly if his abuse becomes escalated.
As an abuser is confronted with his actions (directly or indirectly) they become even more enraged and more dangerous.
keep posting... keep track of what works & what doesn't... of course.. what works probably depends on your goal.. which is??
Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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