The A has been over for 8 months - We've committed to each other again. Things feel great between us. We went through joint counseling that turned out wonderful (obviously - since we left together!) We renewed our wedding vows and have a different relationship then ever before - My question - I can't get the affair out of my head. It's there...part of the problem is that H had an affair with an "in-law" on my side of the family.....she's not going anywhere - she's married into my family - our children all go to the same school. So there's no hope of giving up contact unless I want to loose that part of my very small family.
My marriage was more important than anything. As I said, we've decided to work these things out together. I avoid all contact with the OW - I do not acknowledge her presence the few times we've been near each other...but I still see her -
Does time just heal these things? When I see her children, which is often - it just smacks me in the face.
Do people really just "move on" from the affair and it sinks into the background? Every holiday is a juggling act - every school event must be carefully orchestrated.
My marriage is more important than the big holiday gatherings we used to have - things have to be different which is fine. I just can't seem to get it out of my head that they were together and the probable destruction to our families wasn't a big enough deterent to stop them.
How long does it take before the wounds are healed? I don't want to keep thinking about it. Is the only way to move to another part of the country and never have contact with my own family again?
