I hope you do reconsider trying to DB. Although Puppy can come across pretty crass at times, he really does want to help,and sometimes it is his way of putting things across that hits you upside the head to realize, oh maybe I have not really done very well with these techniques.
I would say that if you would just go 30 days and actually DB, that you would find tremendous results. She is scared about a lot of stuff, she is more scared than you actually. I swear if you go dark, that she will relight the place. This is not just rah rah either, I have been following your sitch very carefully and I can see by her actions (not her words) that she is in a confused state and trying to find happiness and so far she is failing to do so.
