I only know of a few instances of MLC in real life. Perhaps because the abandoned spouse doesn't talk about what really happened to their marriage in the hopes that their spouse returns?
The friend is a man who is in his mid-fifties. Does not believe in a MLC but thinks that xh's childhood abuse caused all of his issues and believes it is amazing that our marriage lasted as long as it did. My last C was of the same view actually. They both believe that xh is damaged and unable to really emotionally attach to anyone, and will continue with this behaviour in his relationships for the rest of his life.
As you believe, my C also said that the PE was due to the childhood abuse. I believed him initially but if you are both correct why is xh not having the same problem now? His relationship with the OW is in the 15th month now, if I am to believe what xh told me about when they met.
My xh was always pretty selfish, even when it came to his son. Not an attractive trait and while I called him on it a lot at the beginning of the relationship, at some point I started to give up. I hated pointing out that he should want to be with me at least one day on the weekend. I wanted him to just want to.
Spent a lot of time crying yesterday for the first time in a long time. Woke again at 4:00 a.m. Don't think I can take much more of this.
