I agree that a NC/Transparency plan is important. However, I've been down that road with her a year ago. It just led to lies and two different cell phones.
My plan on Sat. did what I thought it might; it flushed out that she's still in contact. This is how I've been approaching the sitch. Last year I gave her a roadmap back to the house. She started off well; but in the end couldn't do it. I told her last month that if she wanted to come back; I wasn't going to spell it out for her. She would act in way in which she thinks is appropriate for a WAW to act in order to return home; I, in turn, would make my assessment. If I felt that she was displaying an honest effort to rebuild; I would then lay out my NC/transparency plan, among other things.
Since I've seen no honest effort, only talk; I felt no need to even bring it up on Sat. night. I would've been wasting my breath.
In the meantime, I found a group in the Alt. called "Borderlines Have More Fun" Psycho bunch of women whom are glorfying their condition.
