Thanks, Puppy, a rare and welcome compliment from Himself.
I go back-and-forth on the artillery prep of the financial battlefield question.
She's clearly concerned that I'll take the full boat on spousal support -- she's made that abundantly clear.
She does want to buy a new place -- the mortgage would actually be cheaper than comparable rent, so I can't argue with the logic -- and a good deal of her note-qualification would depend on how much she pays me over-and-above child support.
But by the same token she says "if you're uncomfortable with it you should get a lawyer." And there's no real edge in her voice when she's says it.
So it could go either way.
As for the nicey-nice talk, I'm inclined towards Polly's evaluation -- with Signore Schmuckatelli on his travel adventure and non-communicative the fog is thinner. Again, no jumping to Cloud 9, but I suspect -- even when I look at it with a doctor's eyes (as if I were such a thing -- hah!) -- that the nicey-nice talk is closer to the truth than she would have admitted last month.
I think the DB'ing is having some (+) effect, at least with respect to her evaluation of SP, and that she's less edgy in the house than she was. That, coupled with some of the shocks she's received from MC and S9's C re: just how angry the children will be... I think she's more regretful, perhaps, that we've come to this -- but that doesn't mean abandoning the course of action.
And at the end of the day if we can get along better, then better for the kids.
And we're both pretty frustrated individually in the conjugal department -- maybe she'll give me a roll just for Old Times' Sake.
