I appreciate your support and advice. I may add more about the house but I was trying to keep it to one page - short and to the point so the mediator can read it and quickly grasp the situation.
I don't know how I can avoid mentioning the OW or if I really should? The extent of his involvement with her is EXTREME and he's lost all sense of responsibility. I feel like the mediator needs to know this.
Thanks again Kass.
I would also like to hear from some oldtimers. Puppy, Gucci, are you out there?
"OLDtimers" -- why I oughtta . . .
Silver Fox, I wouldn't change hardly a word of it. I might change "complete, extreme enmeshment" to just "enmeshment" or "total immersion" or something less defensive, but other than that, I think it's fine.
And I definitely think you SHOULD mention the affair. Not sure if you're in a "fault" state or not, but even if it's no-fault, it goes straight to some of the core issues like finances (where he's squandering marital assets on visits to the OW) and the condition of the house (he's visiting OW when he should be helping to get the marital home into a state of repair and peaceable enjoyment).
I hope that helps. I will say a prayer for you today!
