I'll consider the talk and my presence for the upcoming conversation with the kids, along with the excellent points about H having to "discover" the objections for the move himself.
H did not want his own children and has been great with D15 and S17 since they were little. In the last couple years, he seemed to become more distant as we would be gone in the evenings for games/activities and he'd have to do his own thing for dinner, etc. As he became more distant, I became resentful... and so the story goes.
I objected originally to the move because the kids have two years left in HS. I have shared custody with my ex, and if we lived 2 hrs away we'd have to renegotiate our arrangements. In hindsight, I think the X would have worked something out with me or maybe even I could move and leave the kids here during the wk, wknds with me? It would be more expensive for H to be in a mnttown. Single guys usually share apts with others (maybe 4-5 to a 2 bdrm) to cut the rent. H said he didn't want to do that, but I don't know financially how else he could.
Thx again for the input which I'll consider carefully; especially reflecting on why he fell in love with me and the kids and how to be a woman only a fool would leave and make plans for a life without him.
