Nice to hear from you...although the circumstances are less than ideal. First off, I really hope you find some work. If for no other reason that it will occupy your mind for 8 hrs. a day.
I have said this in the past. Unless they are mistreated, people do not leave a marriage, a family without having a plan B. Some people are better than others at hiding it but the truth usually resurfaces.... My advice, although extremely difficult to follow (I was not able to) is to avoid filling in the blanks. Apart from pissing you off more and maybe losing more respect for your wife, what will be accomplished. You will undoubtedly confront her with your new information and feel better for a short while. At the end of the day, most WAS are in their own world and they have already formulated a reason for their actions. Otherwise, they would not be able to function and move forward. I find it ironic that most WAS seem to go on with their lives with little or no apparent remorse in spite of the fact that they were being less than moral. Do what you need to do T.....but the sooner this gets out of your system, the better off you will be. Believe me. I have been there.
