Yep, MLC time. You have to remember, he moved back home and the ow was still somewhat in the picture. He's paddling as hard as he can and he still needs some time to finish baking.
Yes, N2M, this is the hardest part of the journey. Everyone thinks that once they are home that things will settle down and be peaches and cream again...it takes another 12-18 months before things really do settle down.
The lbs is so happy to have the mlcer back home, that he/she doesn't realize that the real work has begun. The mlcer is still very fragile emotionally and they will test you time and time again to see if you are being true. The guilt eats at them and they will bring up things like, if you'd rather I go, I can, and other such comments. Don't buy into them. In other words, they want to ensure that you are not going to throw all of the mlc crap back into their faces. They want to feel "safe" and know that they are "safe". It's really a very true test of the lbs to see if they can really, really reconcile or not.
DebM and JeanS were the early birds that managed to get their husbands back home. They had to deal with this for about 18 months and then once everything settled down, life was so much better for them.
N2M, if you become overly anxious and push the card too much, he'll flee. You do not want to slow down his progress, then let him be and eventually he will settle down and who knows, may be a new and improved hubby for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
