Hello Silver: I haven't posted on your thread before, but the title ("True Fog") was irresistible.
So after working my way through the posts to your letter, I think I would be inclined to split the difference on OW -- mention OW, but things like "extreme" attention to her I would leave out. First, what's the definition of "extreme"? Second, it implies that you know he's paying "extreme" attention to her -- i.e., you're spying.
You could put in the escape clause "my perspective is" or "from my point of view" if you really wanted to stick that kind of needle in, but what I like about your letter is that it just lays out the facts. When it gets to OW and, to a lesser extent, H's presumed irresponsibility in not fixing up the house, the tone becomes a bit more wounded-woman -- and I'm not sure that's the effect you're going for.
