WAW1

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Guys,

The job finished on Friday and I am actively looking for a new role. This has been one of my wife's gripes as she has always said I should have sorted my career out 10 years ago. I am an IT analyst contractor, so when I am working the money is good. When I am between contracts it is worrying patricularly with the current market. I, like all fathers have a duty to provide the best you can for your family. My wife has worked hard, but she always complains her friends do not work and I should have done better. These comments hurt as apart from our mortgage, the credit card bill are always paid in full, all bills are paid on time, we own both our cards and we have a little savings. I think we are doing quite considering the circumstances, but she still complains she does too much. I always thought as a couple you are a team that work together, but she feels I have never communicated to her properly over what I earn etc. We had a huge row yesterday because I was doing some carpentry work in the house that I had not told her I was doing. She accused me of not communicating to her what I was going to do, I was livid that the work I am doing will make no difference to me because I will not be in the house soon. She said her father was going to do that bit of work I had started. I felt really angry and upset that the work I am doing is just not being appreciated, in fact I get shouted at. I acknowledged her reasons and went to do something else. I am starting to come close to losing my temper as it is not in my nature to be so calm under so much pressure but I need to try and rise above it. she also asked me to speak to my friend who is letting me borrow his house for three months, she then said "what do you think will happen, I will ask you to come back after six weeks?" I do not know where this came from, she just seemed to be rambling. I returned home at 1030 from a night out on Saturday, when I told her I would be back around midnight. Because I returned early she went mad and said I had not given her the space she wanted, and I always want to be at home as much as possible now, where in the past I was never there, which is just not true.

This morning I told her what I was going to do - I had some advertisments made up to advertise my services, put an ad in the local paper and generally try to find some extra work. She said to me "why didn't you do this ten years ago, why do it now when it dosen't matter?". She was agitated that I am going to be the catalyst to get work rather than waiting for it to come to me. I said it is a part of the wake up call I got, but as far as we were concerned it was too late so I am doing things I feel I should have done before, but I realise I need to do them now.

What should I read into her and the way she is acting??