I understand how much it sucks to think your spouse is really sticking with the person they cheated with. I will never be able to say I am happy if/when my spouse is in a relationship with someone else, but all along I have said I will be able to deal with it as long as it isn't the OW....that has to suck for you.
I think it is a little different if you eventually meet someone b/c it won't be the person who had a hand in breaking up your marriage....but that assumes your wife will stay with this guy, which, as kerry pointed out, is unlikely. Even if they marry I was just reading a book tonight that mentioned 80% of marriages by affair partners wind up in divorce.
