Something surfaced this week. Nobody will remember, but my W had denied OM over and over again to me and everyone surrounding us. She did admit she had a crush on a guy and that she did do some talking. I chalked it up to a short term Emotional Relationship. Even later after we separated, she said they didnt even interact.
So...Friday I get a call from a buddy. He says he has to tell me this. A lady down the street that was an acquiantance of his called him and asked for my phone number. How she knew he knew me I dont understand. But the summary of the story is, her husband is filing for divorce from her so he can be with my wife. They have two young kids and I believe she has MS. This guy is a major league scumbag. She would like to talk to me and I hope I get the chance this week. He spilled the beans on their entire relationship.
SO...the emotions going through my body are unbelievable. I feel so lied to, manipulated, cheated on, etc. I feel as bad as the day I got the bomb. I am so angry and disappointed in her. I suppose I may have felt differently down the line if it was someone I didnt suspect. But now she's breaking up another family for herself. The most selfish act ever. I have had the worst pit in my stomach all weekend hearing about these two.
There's a lot more to it, but I just dont know how to deal with it. I guess I always hoped that because the excuses were weak, she would come to realize what she gave up. We are divorced, but, this all started while we are married. To me, that makes the circumstances quite different. I never really could figure out her excuses why she wanted to get divorced. Nobody close to us could figure it out either. Nothing made sense. Well, now it does. It was a big lie.
I have talked to my kids about it. They didnt know either. Maybe it was bad for me to tell them, but I didnt want them manipulated by those two before they knew what was happening. I didnt create this situation. I just get to live it, along with them.
