I figure that since my presence in the courtroom on that day won't make one bit of difference, then I might as well do something more meaningful. And there is little more meaningful than spending time with my S's.
The problem is that STBX shot this down -- she got very defensive about me trying to pick the boys up early, and said I was not supposed to have them until 6 PM. I used her own words against her -- asked her whether it wouldn't be better that our S's spend time with their blood relative (me in this case) rather than "strangers" She decided to punt at that point -- she turned it over to S8 to decide, convincing him that he'd rather be at the YMCA day camp instead. S8 wants to go to the camp and there's nothing I can do about that. STBX won that one.
As I have mentioned, I would be tempted at this point to refer to STBXW as a b*tch, but I have too much respect for dogs to associate them with such contemptable behaviors-- dogs are, at the least, faithful.
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Right now I am so torn up. I am distraught over the revelation I discovered this weekend. Seems as if I am always the last to know, but I found out my brother and his wife are now separated. They have three wonderful children.
The both of them, my brother and his W, have supported me during my separation, and to hear they are now in dire straits is killing me. I have not been able to speak with either of them about this -- they are being particularly aloof. I have talked with my youngest brother who is already well informed -- he knows all the details and was able to confirm this horrible turn of events. Apparently they have been unhappy with each other for some time, finally my SIL decided she wants out.
I got almost no sleep last night.
I also found out that my STBXW's sister, my other SIL, has been in contact with my brother's W. I don't think that's a very good sign. I have this gut feeling that my "divorce-happy" STBXW has also gotten involved -- if I ever find out that STBXW has said anything to my SIL, I will make her pay for it. She had better not, not after what they've said about me supposedly "interfering" in her family's lives. If STBXW has offered any influence on my SIL, I will make it my personal life's goal to make STBXW's life a living hell for the rest of her days. That's a promise, and you can bank on it.
I hope for all our sakes STBX stays well clear of this. I have a mind to advise STBX's sister to cease communicating with my family.
