Well - of course all situations and circumstances are unique...
I wouldn't suggest for a moment that my situation is a case study or par for the course - it could be that in Smiley's case you're spot on - and that a determined attempt at breaching the defences might well work. That will be for Smiley yo figure out...
What I'm offering is an observation from my experience and also an observation that if the opera doesn't work, thats not necessarily a reason to give up believing that all is lost - but that there is likely much more behind it that needs understanding before progress can be made - a man's knee jerk reaction is to fix things, show that he's fixed things and then to wonder why the h�ll things haven't sorted themselves out - and then seeing that things haven't improved to shift the blame and to throw the towel in.
In fact, a LBS's all too determined effort could make the WAW all the more wary ... "is this change real?" "why so much, now??, "he's only doing this now because he's afraid of losing me" - it all makes for a very difficult line for the LBS to walk...
My purpose of throwing SC's post into this thread, was to show that things can brew for much longer than meets the eye and that there are a good number of instances where the seeming WAW is not that - but considers herself to be the LBS - in fact there is another archived thread on this board which expresses this much more eloquently than I - just can't remember who it was though...
I'm all for opera...but 2 years on these boards suggest to me that its more likely to be lullabies that have an effect - soothing, consistent and harmonious...
