H and I had a date on Saturday. We went to a casual dinner and then bowling. We haven't done anything interactive like that in a long time. H is an excellent bowler. I'm terrible, but he gave me great pointers. Didn't ML that night, but we did on Sunday morning. It was a lovely weekend!
DQ's advice about kissing more is the ticket to improving my situation.
For a SSM, just focusing on increasing kissing is a "baby step" goal. You don't have to worry about practical barriers (baby-at-large, privacy, shower-fresh) to steal a passionate kiss. And, kissing more frequently makes ML sessons less overwhelming to face, I think.
Kissing alone uncovers the issues within a stand-off situation (who is initiating the kiss, who always seems to initiate the kiss, how the kiss is received, if both people are "into it"...), so you can work through these issues together even without ML.
Kissing keeps the passion alive even during long breaks in between ML.
I am so glad to hear that you are kissing more. It is funny how such a simple thing can help so much. Why in the world do couples let this simple act of love wane as the relationship matures?
I know!!! Thanks for giving me that extra kick in the butt on this last week.
This morning, we were having a playful debate over the "right" order to stack the baby's wooden sandwich - lettuce or tomato last/against the bread... (I think tomato makes the bread too soggy, he thinks the tomato makes the cheese too wet...) Then I was googling references to be extra ridiculous (in a funny way) and argue my point... Then, I stopped myself when I realized that we were wasting all this time being playful when we should be "being playful". I straddled him and made out with him. He was both surprised and receptive. And then I went about my business making French Toast.
He made the next move this afternoon. : )
THANKS again, DQ! Thanks for your simple, straightforward, practical, loving advice. You have helped me tremendously.
Lucky
P.S. There is no "right" way to stack a sandwich. It is a personal thing. ; )
Quick funny... H was wearing his robe after his shower. He delayed in getting dressed. I thought "something was up" and started waiting, annoyed by the cue. (Burt knows I hate cues.) When he made his move, I said, "I knew you were still in your robe for a reason." He said, "I don't just wear my robe when I'm looking for sex. But.... When I wear my robe and *gold chains*, then you'll know....."
Quick funny... H was wearing his robe after his shower. He delayed in getting dressed. I thought "something was up" and started waiting, annoyed by the cue. (Burt knows I hate cues.) When he made his move, I said, "I knew you were still in your robe for a reason." He said, "I don't just wear my robe when I'm looking for sex. But.... When I wear my robe and *gold chains*, then you'll know....."
Hilarious.
THAT'S the kind of taking-the-big-bad-pressure-off playfulness I would recommend. Well done, Lucky and Mr. Lucky.
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