If what we are hearing is true, that there is a good chance of the regret, it appears we need to both a) guard ourselves against 'expecting' a positive outcome for us, and yet b) don't burn our end of the falling bridges - perhaps just put up an "out of service" sign.
To take this analogy further (perhaps too far), W will need to fall, get hurt, mend her wounds, climb back to the top, repair her end of the bridge, and then and only then can we consider if opening our end of the bridge makes sense to us. The whole time, though, we'll have to watch in horror from the top of the cliff where the end of our bridge rests - resisting the urge to rescue her or assist her.
:-)
What are we getting out of this again?? Just an opportunity to decide the outcome later? To show our kids how to act rationally despite being kicked while down? The possible opportunity to mend our broken heart?
Perhaps PDT or others have some advice on how the forgiveness track / script plays out to ultimately benefit us.
Frustrating, especially when the W throws it in our face repeatedly.
Also, did someone write a book already about the SCRIPT? If not, they really, really should. That kind of a blue print would be gold.
