Hey Naej, I think it was an oversimplification, because there are major things I know about my ex that NOONE knows and J wouldnt, but yes, it does point to partly a reason. Also, I didnt explain so well then, but I dont feel Cher and G demonised her, it all sounded the same story. But my friend here J is 42 and just more diplomatic and generous, but the way she spoke about her correlated with what they said (G and Cher said, shes a nice enough girl, pleasant, but not right for him, as J said), but J admitted shes didnt want to get to know her. G and J also both said ex had said "no way" to living with her, so it all matched up.
He didnt leave me becuase of the first sign of illness.. I was repeatedly ill for at least 4 years (in winter, I was ill for 2 weeks, then well for 2 weeks, then ill again) and it was very very hard on him. I became miserable, low and no fun as a consequnece and very controlling of myself and my environment (wouldnt go places where it was draughty for example) and therefore put restrictions on him and his life that looking back were unfair and became untenable. Ironically, I could always be 100% myself with him and felt utterly loved and supported and secure and used to describe him as my 'rock' in fact! He was VERY patient and sweet throughout, but when we moved away, we had no friends, so he had no other distractions and then he had depression so it all got too much for him. I just wish he had talked to me more, is all.
I wouldnt humiliate myself for turning up to Church either, as I would no doubt, melt !!!
