What a coincidence about Shrek. My daughter's high school drama club when to see the show on Wednesday. She loved it but was sad to miss John Tartaglia as the dragon.
When I remember, I'll peek in the alternate universe!
Funny enough we DID go around the house marking things with post-it papers. And having a friend, especially a detail oriented 'get the job done' one is a wonderful gift.
I've been continuing at a much slower pace and the aches, pains and bruises are healing. We were cleaning animals!
Today I saw the doc for a med check who I've been going to for 12 years. As I was summarizing interactions with ex the doc asked me if I was angry or frustrated with ex. I couldn't decide and said I was either 'frangry' or 'anstrated' but that I kept reminding myself of my ultimate goal... receiving the alimony and support on a regular basis. As I wrapped up other highlights since the last visit... negative interactions with ex, son's mono and ER visit, cleaning out the house with my friend, my dad's emergency hospital stay, my sister's need for extended care due to a debilitating illness and on and on, he asked me how I managed it.
I didn't know.. just that I compartmentalized some of it, did what I could within appropriate boundaries with the rest. This doc of few words that pack a lot of punch praised me in how far I have come. Last year I was lost, dependent, hurt. Now I was in charge, confident and something else I forgot. It was very neat to be so complimented.. and by him.
I've been volunteering at the hospital more. Last night was the first time I worked with terminally ill and/or hours away from death patients. What a strange moving experience. Very profound.
My daughters therapist once asked me what I felt. I answered "frustrated" and she told me that frustration was another word for anger. Is she right? Who knows? As spring comes, take some time to get yourself out on LONG walks! Good for the mind and body! Are ya' takin your old buddy's FLTC'S advice and exercising and eating better! That's one piece of advice I know about!!!!!
I'm teaching 4 sessions at my school's Parent University/Kids' College tomorrow, getting my hair done, making a big home-cooked meal at S's request, teaching Sunday school....you around Sun afternoon?
Oops.. It's Sunday.. too late! I have to get to the exercising.. though hauling stuff outta closets and crevasses has to count for something!
I've been busy with the volunteer work at the hospital. It's so rewarding. If I feel drained that means I've used too much personal energy rather than the 'universal energy' that surrounds us. I always walk out feeling great so that's a good sign. As I work with more and more terminally ill and/or near death patients, I'm exhausted the following day, have trouble staying awake, feeling an overwhelming need to sleep.
Are there any nurses, health care professionals with any suggestions? It's amazing how easy it is to connect with people doing what I'm doing.
For those of you who are interested you CAN take a deduction on your legal fees if the bill is itemized between tax advice and legal counsel.
As stated in IRS Publication 529 (2008), p. 10
You can also deduct legal expenses that are: for tax advice related to a divorce if the bill specifies how much is for tax advice and it is determined in a reasonable way.
I will say that your procastination with the taxes is unconscionable and will cost us both money. You have never done the taxes and you slowed the divorce for the last year due to you processing problems. Given my present state after surgery and the time urgency, I suggest you contact my attorney on Monday to resolve your tax concerns.
I read that note and remember the life I had with him. I was always wrong. It's my fault.
I wasn't aware until recently that he wanted me to do the taxes.. or rather, me to find someone to do the taxes. My 'procrastination' is trying to find a tax accountant who is aware of the deduction his lawyer recommended. So far, none are. I finally found the IRS publication and am wary of submitting anything that does not follow the requirements exactly.
I HAVE done the taxes, for years until ex decided he liked doing TurboTax. I was good at doing them the old fashioned way, too!
My 'processing problems' were a direct effect of the head injury. If ex hadn't changed lawyers (to get the most money possible) the divorce would have been done in the fall for significantly much less money.
Ex noted that he was having a minor surgical procedure last Friday. I don't know why I would talk to his lawyer. It feels like driving the wrong way on a highway.
