My Ha has been gone now for ab out four days. Now that he is gone, there is less tension in the house and it feels eaisier to breath.But I already miss him. I am so helplessly lost. He has not called me once since he went to work. I called him about the water heater and about the stove and we talked about that. He got upset with me because I told the installer to cap the gas (we are going electric) at the plase that my H told me that we sould cap it. We lo and behold, I should not have done that because my H could have done that himself when he got back and now I have cost him extra money. Well I guess he should have told me that. I said that he did not tell me and he said that I did and that I just never listen to him when he talks. great, it's my fault now. I tried to do the DB techs by not arguing with him and just saying okay but then he went on to tell me that I can never do as he ask me to do and will I ever get it right. I just said that since I was a n**er f**king whore that I can't think straight like him and hung up. I know that I did not make the situation any better but I have had enough and I am to the point where I want to quit trying and just start actin like I am in the M by myself and just deal with myself and my girls and not worry about him. Does any one out there have any advice for me besides living with some one else, leaving, or getting a divorce. I have thought of MC on my own and maybe ask him to come along later, I have a life when he is around and when he is not around. I pretty much just do what I want and tell him about it anymore, asking him if he would liketo join me.
ANY advice or help please????
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09