Thanks Lucky. Yeah, mines. Not producing anything, but mines nonetheless.
I split the difference on your recommendation. During a talk that SHE introduced, I did the appropriate detached talking -- short, to the point, not brusque or rude.
She had a long run this a.m. and overdid it and came back to the house limping. I told her that it was silly to work out so much and should have called -- the kids and I would have picked her up that far away.
"No, I couldn't do that. For one, I have too much pride. And I made this decision, and I'm on my own now. So I have to deal with living on my own."
I suggested yes, fine, you made the decision, you're on your own, but let's be realistic -- you don't do yourself any good by overdoing it beyond the point of injury. So next time be less prideful and call.
"Well, I can't. And I won't."
Okay. You'll do what's best for you.
"I'm just too proud."
SO. Okay now. She's said that 3 times. Deep breath. Even tone, stead eyes, SP: "I understand that. Pride is a tough thing to deal with at times. And you'll do what's right for you. For my part, I'm done letting pride make my decisions for me. And as far as it goes, the kids and I are happy to lend a hand when it's needed -- so if you need to reach out, don't be afraid. Someone will be there."
And so she started to cry, just a little bit, and made a bit of an attempt to hide it.
So I pushed it, just a little bit: "Let's just leave it at that. Someone can be there if you need it -- the door's not closed."
Disengage, go break up fight between kids over which character in Mario Kart is better.
So we'll see. I laid down a bit of marker. Whether she picks it up or not, or even gives it a second thought -- that's something that exists in The Fog.
