I had to get my daughter up anyway because she has counseling this morning however, I will not encourage my daughter to call. I have simply told her if she would like to call, then do so and if she doesn't she doesn't have to. At 13, I believe that choice should be up to her. When and if I move out of state, I can forsee this situation getting much worse than it already is. The wife has been gone not quite 2 months now and is starting to miss her daughter? Like I said before, if she makes no attempt to fix our marriage, not only will I have no respect for her, I will have no sympathy for her if my daughter chooses not to call her or spend time with her. She acts as if this is all perfectly normal for God's sake!
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
At 13, I believe that choice should be up to her...I will have no sympathy for her if my daughter chooses not to call her or spend time with her.
Agreed, absolutely. And WAW has to learn live w/ the consequences of her decisions.
I don't think it gets pointed out enough that WAWs are every bit as responsible for where we are at as couples as we dumb-*ss husbands are. It takes two to make a marriage and, except in extreme circumstances, two to break it.
Wow, another phone call. Ok, I guess the daughter called her and she wanted to talk to me. I said what's up? She said I heard you may be going to xyz today. I was like yeah. She asked to borrow my truck to pick up daughter's bedroom furniture. Ok, fine. She said have you talked w/ SS19. Yes, he called last night. Really, she says. We talked briefly and she said I don't understand something. I said what. She said why is he calling you more than he's calling me? I said I don't know(remember, she said I was cruel to him). She said you could at least f$%*ing call me and let me know when he does so I know he's still alive. I said first of all I would appreciate if you wouldn't cuss at me and second of all you told me to leave you alone. She said now you're yelling at me. I said no I'm not. She said this is the kind of stuff that makes me think I've done the right thing and I'm not gonna call anymore to talk to you. (Ok--really, at this point why does she think she can speak to me this way after what she's said to me in the last few days with the alluding to cheating?) I said well, I don't have to take phone calls from you if you intend to call me up and berate me and cuss at me. She calmed down a bit after that and told me to have a good day. Fine, you too.
Wow, I'm not sure how long this is going to go on. I only know that it will probably get worse before it gets better. I believe that if I have to move she will go ape@#%@ about my daughter and insist that she stays with her. This is gonna be an interesting, trying year.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Oh what a lonely day. My daughter went over to a friends house for a sleepover so I went out of town for the day. No calls from the wife! I wanted to call her but know better and did not! My daughter, bless her heart, just called me from her friends house. Such a good girl! She lifted my spirits just enough to settle down. I really hope my wife is miserable with her decision right now. I miss her and I hate her right now. Hope everyone had a good day.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Isn't it wonderful??? I know that feeling too well sometimes. It's aggravating! :-) Glad your heard from your D tonight. I will keep you and your fam in my prayers.
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Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
Is it just me or since everyone's sitch started, do the days seem longer? Well, no calls from her. I talked w/ SS19 for about an hour last night. Probably gonna be a long day. Let's see if I can get off here and try to fill it up with something productive.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
In your professional development courses, do they ever speak to you guys about the USAF's history? If so, just think about Black Thursday, October 14, 1943, the second raid on the ball-bearing plants at Schweinfurt.
Those guys -- your predecessors, bro! -- manned up their B-17s, knowing what Schweinfurt meant because of the first raid on August 17. The same guys who survived the first one, bro -- 92d, 305th, and 306th Bomb Groups.
They flew those airplanes -- way beyond the range of fighter coverage -- to the same heavily defended targets, in the same skies, with the same flak and fighters at them nearly from the moment they crossed the Channel, bombing from the same altitude.
77 Fortresses lost, brother -- 650 airmen! -- an 87% loss rate in the 305th and 306th Bomb Groups.
And what did the survivors do? They patched up their Forts, strapped on their flying gear, and went up again, and again, and again.
So hang tough, man! You've got those Guardian Angels flying your wing.
