The no contact/transparency plan would have to be in place; but I had to "feel" this one out before I demanded it because she didn't come off as CERTAIN that she wanted to put it back together. It was almost like she was wanting to feel me out.
My plan was to ascertain her desire to "date" seriously before I would make that demand. IOW, I wasn't going to ask for any more dates until I saw how this one went and I'm thankful that it did go the way it did. Because now I know that she's still confused as ever. I have to agree with BW on this; she'll never change. Even some in our Church believe that because they've seen it. I know nothing is impossible for God; but I feel she hasn't hit her bottom, if she's going to, to force a change.
Just some background, her mother is messed up and, while I don't see it, the W's stepfather says her sister also has some problems. They had a really crappy childhood.
