I asked how long it had been going on. She said "It hasn't been going on long." I told her I suspected since October/November and she said "No it wasn't going on before we separated." I told her "So you admit you have a relationship going on now?" She said "No I'm just talking about friendship." I said - "You two were friends long before our separation, as far back as August - so what do you mean by 'it hasn't been going on long'?"
Then she just said "I don't know. I'm just going to go."
She's lying. About ALL of it.
All you can do at this point is gather/retain your evidence, lovingly detach, and lay out and enforce your boundaries and do your own GAL stuff (for you, not for her) and protect yourself legally. Is yours a "fault" or a "no-fault" state? Carrying on an affair with the next door neighbor, while her children are about, will not be looked kindly upon by a family court judge.
