I think you let him lead, and if he brings it up, you listen respectfully. If he says something you know is a lie, or is f.o.s., call him on it. If you feel something in your heart you want to say -- say it. Otherwise, just LISTEN, and let him lead. You don't need to make any decisions based on anything he tells you.
You seem AWFULLY torn. All the more reason not to do anything permanent either way.
