Ali, istherehope raised some good points and I am sure what you heard will have been music to your ears, as you now have a possible answer and possibly a solution. But (always a but) and this is not a negative because I do agree with isthere I think you may need to ask yourself some new questions in light of this "revelation". You have already admitted / recognised that you had been depressed and I am not sure how much of that came from him withdrawing emotionally from you but none the less.... do you want a man who will bale at the first sign of illness or difficulty,this trait does not bode well for a lifetime commitment together,as one thing we can all be sure of is life is never plain sailing and we all have our down times. Will you forever have to be looking over your shoulder or wearing that mask afraid that if you have a bad time and show your true emotions/feelings at that time then he will leave you?
All this is speculation as he is still (whatever the garpevine says) with Helen and not making any movements towards you getting back together yet.So all this is in the future perhaps but worth a thought.
Interesting that the wife had such different views on Helen though. Maybe Cher and bf demonized her in an effort to make you feel better, friends do that sort of thing with the best of intentions because they obviously care about you. So whilst all this sounds positive news on the whole,proceed carefully and be cautious for whilst you have made improvements he(x) obviously has not and still has the same issues. Take care. ps forgot to say enjoy the rest of your stay, did you say your parents are returning with you for a few days if so enjoy their company. Well spose to be summertime today but distinctly freezing here oh well least it is bright and not wet. And I remembered the hour this year and didn't humiliate myself by turnin up to church almost at the end of the service.
