I haven't posted in awhile, but I just want to jump in. You know my feelings on everything, and that I do have hope that you and your ex can get back together, if you are willing to continue being patient. One thing worries me here though. This is how much it seems that you are reading into the fact that he wouldn't have left you if you were the way you are now. While of course we all have some degree of responsibility for the problems in our Rs, I think this is probably a bit of a cop-out/way to cover his own guilt as if there was a legitimate reason for leaving you, something to explain his poor behavior. Yes he probably has seen you working on yourself, becoming stronger and healthier etc. and he is probably comparing this to the less than realistic way that he was viewing your R before, i.e. that there was so much that was negative. Isn't it the case that WAS's often rewrite history? Of course it is positive and good to hear that your ex is reconsidering things, but I just want to say there there is absolutely no way, IMO, that your ex left you "because of how you were." Maybe there were some things that he didn't like/didn't want to address that helped him to justify leaving you, but the fact of the matter is that if he had been in a sound, rational place-if there were big issues-he would have addressed them rather than just leaving. I don't think that you will be able to get a "good reason" for why he left for quite some time. You know that he was/is in some kind of crisis, and that has probably colored his actions for quite some time.
Regardless, I think things to be slowly tipping in your favor. Please just don't blame yourself for him leaving, or think that you could have done something differently.
Hope you're having a good weekend, ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
