If your W has always been careless with her credit cards, money, etc., but unwilling to except the blame for her own actions, it says to me that she is very immature or about to go off her rocker! Just refuse to get pulled into any type of conversation regarding any of her things like that b/c as you saw, you cannot win the battle. There is one thing that I feel very, very strongly about and that is the adults fighting or arguing in front of the children. I would tell her before she has time to throw another one of her fits that this will not take place in front of the kids and when she has anything disagreeable to discuss with you (and especially if she is going to "blame" you about something) to have a place in the house away from the children (like the bedroom). It is devastation for kids to hear their parents doing this sort of thing and very wrong.....just plain WRONG for adults to not go to a private area to doing their fighting. You may even have to take her by the arm and tell her in a very firm low voice that the conversation will continue in the bedroom (or wherever) but not in front of children. She probably won't like you taking her by the arm and may even accuse you of being brutal.....so maybe you shouldn't even touch her.
I just think she is "losing it" and you need not worry and put any value into what she says. That is blunt, but it is just the way I see her.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
