Need Help handling affair thats still going on

[peacetoday]

K
It is a tough call
to be distant
this technique is to let the WAS realize and feel the loss
this one was hard for me too
for the first 2 years I was mostly there..validating H and being the wife I thought he always wanted
I fwlt I had to b/c I made a lot od mistakes in the M
I was not there for H a alot so I needed to do this as a amends for my shortcomings in the M
I said thank you
I was appreciative
and our R went well during the seperation..but I dont think H felt any loss b/c I was there
now I dont really know what the odds are that even if they feel the loss they will return
vs
if we are there for them they will return
I think we have to try different things and decide which tecnique will be best
Im still trying to figure this one out
peace