Need Help handling affair thats still going on

[kjensen]

CL and Peace-
Thanks for the support. Lots of tears today-that just come with memories and a vivid imagination... I went to a small dinner party at a friend's house tonight while my H stayed with my youngest daughter and took her out for dinner. The dinner party was fun, but everyone else was with spouses and kids-so I kept being aware of who wasn't there with me... I came home and my H was still here playing cards with my daughter-they were having fun which is awesome since my youngest has the most anger towards my H about the separation. My H had done all kinds of "honey-do" things/chores around the house that helped me tremendously. I know I'm supposed to remain distant, but I gave him a hug goodbye-at least he hugged me back. I just sent him a very short "thank you" email for all he did tonight. I'm hoping it wasn't too much-he complained of not being appreciated, of being taken for granted in our marriage, so I am trying to be aware and acknowledge all that he does for us. I am letting go more than I ever have, hopefully it will become easier on my end. I've always been emotional at leaving/letting go/saying goodbye. I don't know if its abandonment issues(I'm adopted) or what. Intellectually I know we have little control over people/things, no ownership of anything but our selves. Emotionally I don't think I'm quite as enlightened. I'll just keep trying. Thanks again for your support and good ideas!