Don't lower your standards so much. He'll meet them
Or you will find someone who will!!!! You've got lots of great posters here, PM. I do think you have to come to dropping the rope at your own time. You may want to take baby steps into looking into a move. A lot of stuff now you can do online, or maybe a visit there to check out places to live or work or whatever. You don't have to 100% commit today, but just maybe move baby steps in that direction if you feel like it. But yeah, the focus should be on you and what you want to do with your life, and not your H's reactions to it or anything about your H. Karen
