As far as goals. My only goal was to get her to talk a little to me without tearing me apart. That's not happening either. And at this point I really don't want to talk to her. All it brings me is grief. So, I guess I need to set some new goals.
I think DBing is often most importantly for you. Divorce can last a while btw, mine will take over a year I'm sure, if not longer.
I'm far from an expert in goal-setting, but instead of having a goal that is based on your W's reactions which you can't necessarily control, maybe that you will no longer allow her to tear you apart? I don't think that helps your R in any way, and it hurts you.
I started GALing when I certainly didn't feel like it. I faked it the first couple months. Just do it like those old Nike ads. GALing keeps your mind off your problems, improves your self confidence and PMA, and I've also met a bunch of friends through GALing and they give great support. Eventually, I actually did become the happy, confident person I was faking at the start!!! Karen
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