True, Your xh is just plain out to lunch. I wouldn't write anything at this time. This guy is still very much into projecting and the blame game. He will never see the light until he realizes what he has lost....you, your friendship and love. True, I would leave him be for a while.
Of course, he's bitter....you didn't allow him to have everything the way he thought you should have. Marriage is a two way street and you were just as entitled to the money as he was...no, he shouldn't have it all and neither should you. You did the best thing you could do...sought out your half. I wouldn't feel bad about this at all. He's the one that left, spent his money and is now w/o much of anything, or so he says. As for being ill...you can't burn the candle at both ends and expect to healthy, wealthy and wise.
So, my dear friend, True, cut the ties and let his ship sail away for a while. He needs to be allowed to venture forth into the open seas and see that you, his lighthouse are only a distant memory for a while.
True, you do not deserve to be talked to the way he's been doing to you. This man is pulling out the last stops in hopes of making you feel guilty so that you'll give him every penny....don't go there. Cut him loose! It's time he realized that you are no fool.
