H still hiding A

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Hope thanks for your input.
I did bring the fact up in counseling that he brought D to OW house. C told D she needed to stand up for herself and tell her dad that makes her uncomfortable. I'm not sure my D can do that, so I will have to. I can do that!

As far as exposing the A. H is already digging his own hole. A few friends saw his car at OW house and the rumor has circulated. Just think H is oblivious to the fact that he is so obvious. OW lives so close to me and many friends. When friends asked me I did tell them he was having an A. I think OW H knows also, he came back from another state (where he was working cause no construction jobs around here) to try to work things out but I noticed that my H is still over at her house a lot. So I don't think that OW H is living in the home right now? Not sure, but my D told me that OW & H are getting a D. My H and OW are spending a lot of time at her house and I believe with her friends. H has made plans to go to some outdoor concert with her and her friends this summer. I wish I could talk to OW H. Just not sure how to get ahold of him since he is not in the house? And not sure what good it would do? Any thoughts?
I do know that OW has a 17yr old D who HATES my H.

H did tell me he doesn't care if his friends know and hate him. That he will make other friends, and he has OW friends. He is a real outgoing, friendly person. So I'm sure he fits right in. He pretty much avoids his old friends now. Which is sad, it's like he has just immersed himself in her world and isn't looking back. Except for his kids.

Today was his birthday! This was a tough one for me. My D texted him and he said he was drinking beer all weekend with friends. But I know it is all of his "new" friends. What is up with that, it's like he has started this whole new life for himself.

My H found out about my depression thru my D. Do you think I should tell him that I'm thru it or what. Or how should I protect myself so he won't use it against me in a D?

I have stopped texting him and I only have contact with him about the kids. He doesn't hang aroung the house any more just drops off kids and leaves. I have been putting makeup on and look my best when he comes over. But no comment on that just comments on my weight. I have lost a lot of weight, so the only thing he comments on is how skinny I am. He pretty much looks repulsed.

I feel like this is spiraling downward faster and faster with no way to stop it.

Hope, did you expose your H's A? And what happened if you did?