I too can completely identify with your first line there! I feel the same way.
For me things started right before I was due to go away for 2 weeks without H. This is the 1st time since we've been married (2.5 yrs) that ive traveled out of country w.o him and for that long. He dropped the whole bomb about not being happy/not knowing what he wanted to do right before I left. But assured me to go ahead and go enjoy my time with my family that he was not going to make any decisions in 2 weeks time and we would discuss it when i got back. He said it would be good for him to have some time to think. By the time I got back he had decided he wanted to separate.
My H too seems to be having some kind of life crisis, some of the comments you posted sound similar to what my H has said. And he too has been talking a lot to a female co-worker, she was a friend of both of ours and he assures me they are just friends too. It is hard seeing someone you have been best friends(and M to) distancing from you and becoming better friends with someone else, especially another woman.
I too am pretty new to this and have been working on detaching and 180's for the last 3 weeks. I have had some positive results but very small steps.
My H is not asking for D either, so not sure what that means in all of this.
I too have had comments from H recently stating that 'I am doing better' and asking 'am I?' I felt like saying NO OF COURSE NOT! but I didnt!! I have wondered if it is out of guilt he is asking or because he really cares....
Sorry I am not able to offer too much advice, but I can offer support as I am trying a lot of the same as you right now! Just will keep seeing how it goes and trying to do better. I just had to comment as some of your statements ring true for me as well.
Good luck this weekend keeping busy and distracted.
cb
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
