Well, I AM moving for the sake of moving. There is nothing to keep me in CO. I don't like it there and the only reason I moved there was for xBF's job. I only have a couple friends and cannot find a decent stylist. All good reasons to move. I've discussed it with my counselor and he is 100% behind the decision even though he usually recommends against moving in these situations.
I adore SF. This is my third trip in about four months and every time I'm here I can't believe I ever left. Today I sat on the beach looking at the GG Bridge, listened to the waves crash, read my book and people watched. It was fantastic.
Could I be happy in CO? I've thought about it a lot and have a different pov on it lately. If, and that's a huge IF, I decided to give xBF another chance (would that be his third?) I could stay in CO for a while longer. But I am no longer willing to write off ever living in SF again. I feel very strongly that SF is where I want to be, if not immediately then eventually. If xBF is not willing to consider a move then he can stay where he is without me.
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You're killing me. Just signed my acceptance letter but won't be out there for two months. Of course I have a friend that sent me pictures of the snow storm you all just had.
I joke but understand why someone would like the bay area also... except for Oakland Raiders LOL
Well, I AM moving for the sake of moving. There is nothing to keep me in CO. I don't like it there and the only reason I moved there was for xBF's job. I only have a couple friends and cannot find a decent stylist.
Kenn, the only other person I know in CO who doesn't totally love it is my friend who I went to college with - in SF. She also misses the water and aspects of big city living. But everyone else just loves Denver and thinks it'e the best place ever. And of course I'm not a Raiders fan, I'm a 49er girl all the way!
Puppy, you joke but after living through the worst haircuts of my life, not being able to find someone I like is driving me crazy! I had someone I loved in Anchorage but here they all butcher my hair. That's saying something. It's even more important now that I'm single!
Tawnya, looks like they only got about 8" of snow and the roads are clear now. Still glad I wasn't there!
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I'm fine with snow, after living in AK for 2+ years I'm used to it. Just the thought of having to get out the shovel and the outfit was too much after last weekend when it was mid-70s. I am just done with winter.
I just started skiing again this year. I do enjoy it but it's definitely not a passion. Especially at the current prices!
I know I'm spoiled. I grew up in Seattle, mountains all around and on the water. After living in AK and CO I've discovered that mountains are nice to look at but water is crucial.
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I know it's the weekend and not many people are around, but if you are I could use some help.
As you know, I'm in SF for the weekend. What I neglected to mention is that xBF is at the house watching the cats. I know it's not the best option but I couldn't get a hold of my cat sitter on such short notice so I had to ask xBF.
I think he will still be at the house when I arrive. I didn't tell him when I'm coming home but since I told him last week during the phone call that I expected him to show some effort, this may be it.
So I will be wearing a cute outfit (new jeans, sweater, purple shoes if the weather allows) but I'm not sure what to do or say. If he wants to have a R talk, how do I respond? (I certainly won't be starting that convo.) Should I engage in the talk or do I simply thank him for watching the cats and tell him he can leave now?
He is obviously not ready, willing, or able to fulfill my needs. I'm not going to wait around for him to do so. But the fact that I have doubts and feelings at all makes me wonder if I am truly ready to permanently and irrevocably leave him behind. Or am I ready and just missing the idea of him, of us?
Last edited by pearlharbr; 03/29/0904:49 AM.
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How would you treat someone else who stayed and watched the cats and took care of the house for you? I think the most important part of a relationship is the communication. So I think asking a favor of him, and then dismissing him afterwards is cold and heartless. I think you should have a heartfelt conversation with him if he brings it up. And you should make an effort to be considerate of his feelings in the things you say.
Sara, I know I am very cold and heartless in my dealings with him. It's a reaction to the amount of hurt he caused by cheating when he knew that was the one thing I would not abide. I just don't know how to be middle of the road. I'm afraid I will just lose it emotionally if he brings things up because I know he is still lying to me and I can't take any more disrespect.
Do you have any suggestions on how to handle myself so I don't end up cold or killing him?
And I would treat a friend differently if they did me a favor. But he's not my friend. Friends don't lie and treat each other with this level of disrespect. If they did, I wouldn't be their friend anymore and I have dropped friends in the past for just such behavior.
Last edited by pearlharbr; 03/29/0905:06 AM.
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