Had following e-mail from H 3 weeks ago.Feel so hurt at the cold tone,yet know at the same time he must be feeling awful. Have composed numerous responses in my head but kept silent.Its not the serial unfaithfulness and his leaving me that hurts, but the lack of communication from him after so many years.Can he really move on so readily?This is what he wrote-"Realise apologies aren't enough now. I will deal with this and let you know what is happening.
You probably know I had a call from your solicitor last week. She sounds like a nice woman. Thank you for asking her to do that. I'm seeing a solicitor on Friday 6th.
I couldn't send any money because I'm afraid I had a pretty big house bill at Cinder Road. The pipes froze in the kitchen in the very cold spell in January. Three pipes burst, the sink tap cracked open, the combi boiler was ruined and the kitchen flooded. Hired a dehumidifier to dry the kitchen and tried to keep the repair bill down by fixing as much as I could. But had to out and replace the combi boiler and tap. Had to get it done as needed to keep the house warm in case it happened again - has cost almost �2,000 to date. Am still putting the kitchen back together now. I didn't tell you because as I hadn't been able to ring you I felt that calling you just to tell you about the trouble I was having was just bleating. So I got on with it - loops within loops!
I'm so sorry Pad was subjected to that answerphone. I was mortified you and for her. For what it's worth it's not as it sounds and I am not living with anyone.
I hope you're okay.
Chris" He is ashamed. I know advice is to validate but I dont know what to do.Finances are going to be an issue or I would wait .I dont feel as if I will ever really get over this although I am surviving and trying to keep cheerful. The nights are the worst. I want so much to talk to him.Its been 20 months.
