KJ, I can empathize with your situation, as I'm going thru something similar, in terms of the WAS being distant.
We have to learn acceptance, that we ultimately don't have control over our situations. They are going to make the decisions (even if misguided) they're going to make.
Sometimes, our situations call for us to have to learn to let go of the controls, and let things happen on their own. I think this is the case for you.
You can't think your way thru this phase. There is likely no strategy or intervention that will stop the downward spiral.
Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance, advises to pause and hold your hand to your heart as a symbol of kindness to yourself and to stay present with the difficult emotions.
I'm thinking of you in this difficult time, and am reminding you that you are part of a community here, and are not alone.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
