You are still attempting to put a square peg in a round hole. Your h's behavior isn't rational, therefore, you as a rational person, will not understand.
One thing I've noticed is you worry too much about him being at the games, etc., where you will be. Try to think of him as another parent and not your h. I know it's hard, but it ruins so much of your day when you are thinking the what ifs. I'm hoping he's still got enough sense left in the brain not to bring the ow around the games.
As for his comment about his soon to be ex-wife, they all say that. Just let the comment go. If you look at what you've posted, he makes the comment and yet on the other hand, wants to hold off a while on the filing. Treese, your h is very confused and isn't ready to divorce you. He's doing the stalling bit because he doesn't know what he wants and he's hoping against hope that you'll not file yet. I'm not telling you this to get your hopes up, I'm just pointing out the obvious...his words to not match his actions right now.
Go the game, enjoy yourself and leave the stranger on the bench. Act as if he's a stranger and if he speaks, speak and go on. Don't sit w/him...find some friends and sit w/them. He needs to see how it feels to be alone and not have you there w/him.
Treese, go to the game and have some fun!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
