I second the suggestion for Byron Katie and The Work. It changed my life...helped me detach from difficult things that others did and focus on how I could take care of myself better. It's a simple practice, but powerful. I find myself working through the strategy in my head sometimes when I'm even in the middle of something.
More than anything, I wish you some peace, FIB. Breathing space.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!