Divorced - It's only a piece of paper but I am sad

[glamgirl]

Sorry TL that your h is back to blame. When I was meeting with our C this week and h was in attendance. I asked our C what to say to h when he continues to bring up the blame and is angry over and over.

The C said you say something like h, I am sorry that you are feeling that way. It wasn't my intent and I never meant to hurt you. Then list what they think you are responsible for and then say h can you ever forgive me for behaving this way? Then let it be.

So this is the approach I am going to use every time my h now brings up something from the past that he is still hanging on to. I am excited to see if this works.

I know that I would just be loving towards him in the e-mail, because in the whole grand scheme of things life is truly too short and it's not worth not coming to terms with past hurts.