In all truth to me, you sound like a man who experienced a bad war before and see the signs in time to get prepared for the worst. I am sure your emotions must be like walking a tight-rope between love and hate most of the time. You seem very mature for a young man (a compliment) and I do wish you all the very best for you and your family. As I told another poster today, we who respond on almost a daily basis to people on the board may sound as if we are finding something negative when we are just trying to point out things for them to watch for so they won't hurt themself more in the future. If I were in your shoes and especially being through what you have, I can't say that I would blame you for your actions. I think it is so sad that you have been hurt by two women already before you have reached your 30th birthday. I just would hate to see you get sour on all women or to think they all are cut from the pattern.

Continue to do what works and try to keep down the talk of D and stay positive and I think you will be okay. Hope things won't have to ever reach the courtroom.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!