Your decision, I repeat YOUR DECISION, can be to say that I love my wife and intend to stay her husband as long as I live. Regardless of what she says or doesn't say. If you are going thru each day feeling as though you are in a holding pattern...STOP IT! You know you love this woman to the depths of your being. Live each day LIKE her husband. Each day that you stay in there and continue to WANT your marriage and your wife, you are building something. Brick by brick so to speak. You are her lighthouse in the storm right now Tim.
I do not know your sitch. I just peeked in here tonite. This stuff he wrote to you is PURE GOLD~ Just do it , don’t question it. I did this almost 3 years ago and the results were nothing short of amazing. My H said he would never change his mind, he didn’t love me. It was over. I was devastated. I gave and loved “as if “ he had never said those things. I loved him from a genuine place in my heart. I also had to “pursue” b/c that was a 180 for me. You need to do what works even within the DB “guidelines”. If it doesn’t hurt and it takes you closer to your goal? Then by all means do it. You will have all the free time in the world later to contemplate what ifs and why and she should have… why didn’t I? But for now? You put all you have into “saving” your M. Transforming yourself as a Human Being. I have read bworls post to others before. You are very blessed to have him for a friend. Take care and God bless, Ali
I always remembered this. In the end it is not all about you, they are hurting too. Or this one. Love me now when I deserve it the least. I dunno? I read it somewhere. It stuck. All my best to you. The world is a better place with you in it!
