I'm not so sure I want to wait, or let her make the decision for me any more.
Why would you ever let her make the decision for you? I wasn't clear that this is what you have been doing for this past year.
YOU make YOUR decision.
That's the way it should always be.
But catch this thought...
Your decision, I repeat YOUR DECISION, can be to say that I love my wife and intend to stay her husband as long as I live.
Regardless of what she says or doesn't say.
If you are going thru each day feeling as though you are in a holding pattern...STOP IT!
You know you love this woman to the depths of your being.
You also know that MY opinion is that she loves you the very same way. And she has her reasons for being unwilling to admit to that.
So choose to be her husband forever.
Live each day LIKE her husband.
Don't hold back ANY part of who you are or how you feel about her and your life together.
Do this knowing full well that she is unable to reciprocate completely right now.
Accept that. Own it. Just as you have done throughout this past year.
Think of it this way.
Each day that you stay in there and continue to WANT your marriage and your wife, you are building something. Brick by brick so to speak.
Your wife is noticing this. She is DEFINITELY noticing this. Hence the comment about you being her best friend for the first time in your marriage, and your home feeling like a home for the first time.
Just keep building. You are filling her love tank day by day, simply by choosing to remain a husband who is devoted to loving his wife.
I know it's not completely fulfilling for you.
I can tell you that I honestly believe this won't last forever.
And I can tell you that I also believe that YOU WON'T BELIEVE what this time will one day mean to your wife.
You are her lighthouse in the storm right now Tim.
She is finally able to count on you. She is learning that she can finally trust you. She is realizing that YOU are the way home after all.
I still believe these things with my whole heart.
I'll be so pissed if you blow this all away by indulging yourself.
Strength AND honor my friend.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
